Try not to pay attention to things that don't impact your life directly. This seems obvious in theory, but it's hard to put into practice. Your time is limited and should not be wasted. Few things are worth being unhappy over. This doesn't mean you need to be happy all of the time, it just means you need to be at peace.
This time of the year is for family and self-reflection, planning for the new year ahead. Look back on what you have achieved over the past 12 months, how you have changed as a person. Are you happy with what you see? If yes, continue onwards, making adjustments as required If your answer is no, reflect on what went wrong and what you may have not been considering. Make adjustments to your life until you are content with your situation.
Far too many of us push onwards without looking back. This is not a bad thing, but it can have destructive side effects. Think of all the time you have spent thinking about things that do not matter in the long run. Did you fret over a situation on February 21st, 2020? Are you still fretting over that situation today? If not, then realize in the heat of the moment that the after effects of this situation are minimal.
This time wasted thinking about other things needs a place to go. Think of new hobbies you'd like to take up, and realize that there is no moment other than the present moment. The past and the future are made up in our minds. The only thing that exists is a series of present moments with some historical records of other present moments, otherwise known as history.
Take up hobbies that give you fulfillment. Playing an instrument, learning a new language, studying a topic you've been procrastinating on. These things directly impact your life. Random people on the internet calling you mean names do not. They do not exist once you turn off your phone or your computer. Once you have done that, you can forget they ever even existed.
These words may sound harsh, but they should help you. Become incredibly selfish with your time. Do not lend it out for nothing in return. If you are reading this and your heart is pushing against this message, I applaud you. But realize this is how the world works. Even if people think they are doing something charitable, they are only doing it because it benefits themselves in some way. It's as simple as a pat on the back for a good days work or a photo op that ends up in the local newspaper.
Be like water. Take these words and do not develop a strict routine or regimen to follow. This is not the proper way to live. Only take action when you feel it is in accord with the universe. Do things as you want to do them. Be who you are meant to be. Being yourself is the most natural action you can do. Achieving your true self does not require secrets or strict routines, it simply requires being yourself. You will naturally drift towards your perfect state.